Are you different?

They wore their strange beauty like war paint. ― Holly Black

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Tell me if I am wrong, but I think there are two types of people.

People who leave out other people,

And people who get left out.

And there is a category in between. They are the people who try to please people who hurt them and leave out the people who accept them. I know everyone wants to be a good person within. It is possible that you have a lot of friends and you would like to invest in who matter most to you. It is also possible that you are in a toxic zone where you repetitively fight too hard for the things that are not meant to be yours.

To the people who get left out. I know it hurts. It hurts when people tell you to shut down your emotion as if it is a tangible wooden door. It hurts when people smile at you but it does not quite reach their eyes, making you question whether you are good enough. It hurts when people order you to “knock it off” because you already have what it takes―a beating heart, adequate body parts, enough food―to be alive. It hurts when everything tries to break you apart and still expects you to be alright.

Here is the secret no one dares say: it is difficult to fit in, and it is difficult to stand out.

Who says that all the differences could be your greatest strength? Is it still a strength if the entire world is on your shoulder? Is it still a strength when people identify themselves as a “we” and there is an occasional “you”? Is it poisonous to the whole planet if you are included in the “we”?

Tell them how you feel. People are so busy judging they are no longer good at reading. It is tempting to criticize, because it is hard to appreciate. The capacity for humans to take things for granted is infinite. Let them know. If they really wish for you to stay, they will make it happen. If they do not, you should know when to set them free.

Truth be told, if they have rejected you multiple times, they are most likely going to do it again. Hey, wait a minute! They say you can only fail so many times before you succeed, right? Let me make this clear! The word “rejection” here does not mean failure. It is not like Kennedy’s “only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly”, but more like Norton’s “you either live who you are or die being someone else”. Do not waste your time and cross oceans for people who would not jump puddles for you. Do not set your soul on fire to keep others warm. You only have approximately 26 million minutes left to live. Live. It.

Give up on them does not make you a bad friend. It makes you a better friend. It teaches them a lesson that if they do not build a gate to protect their friendship, they cannot expect that gold mine to always be in their backyard. You are not entitled to devote your life to them. You are also not required to mend the friendship when they keep breaking it. People come and go. If they deserve to live their way, so do you. Do not be afraid to leave behind one more reason to make you unhappy.

Remember that you are the definition of yourself and your truth, not anybody else. Just because you do not fit in here, does not mean you do not fit in anywhere. The right people will not show up at the wrong time. Build your world, people will follow it. There are people like you out there, wondering if you exist. Stay intact, focus on yourself. Do not let their opinions ruin you and what you value in life. Do not let them make you feel that you are less than perfect. Remember what Tay Tay said? “Shake it off. People throw rocks at things that shine.”

People do not respect people who agree to everything. Do not try to please them and betray your conscience. This will make them think that you are their follower and they can make you do anything. Make your voice heard. Ask yourself. What is it that makes you different? Just like business strategy, sharpen that superpower of yours and be confident. Fight for what you believe in. Fight for the people who deserve you. Learn from the people who leave you out. Forgive them. Because forgiving means you have more time and energy to find the right people.

Be different. Be undefined. Be unstoppable.

You could be anything you believe in.

You could be flying across the continents, or run after that bus you missed.

You choose.


VITAK CHEAV


 

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9 thoughts on “Are you different?

    1. That is really a twist point in perspective. I also believe in “what comes around goes around.” The more good we do the more we receive.

      But if everyone returned the goodness they are granted, the world would be a lot less complicated. “People accept the love they think they deserve.” One chooses their circle of friends, their equal. And it would be hard to believe there is a person not hated by all. Everybody is different. Some think the only people who are people are the people who look and think like them. Others put themselves into everyone’s shoes until they are taken for granted.

      It is tempting to say one can love everybody. After all, we humans are projected to reflect faults and flaws. We only admire the things we cannot do. Our brain is 1kg, taking forever to process one concept. There are only so many people we can include and actually be close with.

      Maybe it is not about inclusion. Maybe it is not about who starts first and who waits. Maybe it is about finding yourself and do what your heart believes is right. Maybe you cannot be friends with everyone, but there is no one in the world you can learn nothing from.

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  1. “There are people like you out there, wondering if you exist.”

    Yes, I think there are people like you out there.

    Some of them might be lucky enough to find you, but some might not be that lucky.

    Therefore, instead of seeking out for you they choose to learn to make peace with solitude.

    From that they have explored and built their own characters.

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    1. I completely agree!!! It comes as an advantage when people learn to build themselves once they know they stand out. Somehow, it develops their empathy and their emotional intelligence. In this case, I believe, these people are more likely to be the source of their happiness. Fitting in could or could not be a pain, but the art of living a happy life revolves significantly around the ability to feel complete.

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